You could give everything to a woman, and it still wouldn’t be enough

I’m in my 20s and I’ve been seeing this girl for a few months now. In that time, I’ve done nothing but give my best self. I’m not perfect, but I’ve made an effort. We’ve been on numerous dates. I’ve payed for absolutely everything. I always pick her up, I’m there emotionally to support her throughout all her breakdowns and I’ve even splurged on some gifts - not cheap ones btw. I have decent money to do this, and I’m happy to because I felt something real with this person, and I didn’t necessarily expect anything in return. All I really expect is someone who’s supportive of me, someone who is positive, and at the very least appreciative.

But at some point, it almost feels like I’m being used. I’m not even the clingy type.. all I expect from my partner is effort and appreciation. And I wasn’t seeing that from her side after a few months.. to test my theory, I pulled back my side of effort towards her. I stopped initiating conversations, proposing date ideas etc. days when by, and she didn’t reach out. I then message her, and now I’m getting flaked on.. dry replies, replying after several hours. This is someone who claims to really like me, claims to want a relationship etc. What is it that I’ve done wrong ? When we’re together she acts like I’m the love of her life, but it all just feels like a big facade because her overall actions don’t align with the words coming out her mouth or texts she sends.

She says she wants a relationship and monogamy but clearly has no interest playing her part to build that. I’m honestly losing faith in dating..

You could do so much for a girl, and it could mean nothing at all. If I’m being honest, I think I’m done with trying to get into a relationship for now. If it happens organically whatever, but I’m done hunting for it on dating apps. what is the point of giving your best self to someone if most of the time. they’re not willing to return the effort.

Focus on your careers, health and personal goals because chasing women will leave you with nothing but emotional damage, a lighter bank account and wasted potential.