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Is she lying? Or Did I do something wrong?

Any advice or thoughts on this would be appreciated.

M (24) I got into a relationship with a woman who I’ve known since kindergarten a few weeks ago. I’ve always felt some attraction to her for my entire life so I decided to shoot my shot. We started talking and it was going extremely well. I was telling her about my life since. Asking her about hers. I’m already head over heels for this woman. I mean she was like the perfect compatible woman I could ask for. I’m telling her things like why didn’t I ask her what out years ago because we could have had such an amazing relationship. We get to talking about relationships, I tell her it’s been a few years since I have dated anyone or really had talked to anyone. I have extremely bad anxiety and isolated myself for awhile. She tells me that she has a ex husband and 3 kids. She also says that she dated someone two months ago who s3xually abused her children. Which is horrible. So I tell her I am going to make it my goal to show her the best relationship she can possibly have. I complement her all the time for some days and devoted time to try and prove to her that I am not a regular guy who is trying to get in her pants and leave. It comes to the time we are about to hang out. So on that day I bought her a cute little bear holding a rose as just some little cheesy present. She liked it. We hang out at my house and end up fucking on the first day. I didn’t initiate anything btw we were cuddling and she kissed me and then my neck and then obviously she went to the next thing. We slept together for some hours after that and then she needed me to pick up her sister and bring her home. I abliged. I met her mother and her aunt. Then it was time for me to go. She grabs my face and kisses me and then tells me “I like you so much, I will never leave you.” Then I drive home. Hours later after regular texting she tells me she’s getting yelled at by her family saying she needs to wait a year at least to date again. Or she will get a restraining order against her from her crazy ex. And she will not be able to see her kids. This leads to her breaking up with me. Telling me she is sorry. That she really wanted to be with me. But she cant lose her kids. Obviously there is nothing I can possibly do in this situation. I tell her that this breaks my heart. She says she never meant to hurt me. And she doesn’t want me to put my life on hault to wait for her. Blocks me on insta. So I text her asking why she has to block me. “It’s because I don’t want to reach out and hurt you anymore”. Blocked again. And I guess that’s it. I’m unsure if I’m doing something wrong here or if she’s actually telling the truth. But most of every relationship I’ve had has ended in ways that she leaves me. I am very hurt. And alone once again :(

Posted Jan 7, 2026, 3:01 PM UTC

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