What is emotional intelligence according to you?

What do you think emotional intelligence is? How good are you at it? How does it affect your relationships?

INTPs are supposedly among the worst of the 16 types when it comes to emotional intelligence, and on the other hand women have often shown overall better results in the literature. So I thought it would be fun to ask here.

Completely unrelated to the main topic, but I'm also curious about the hobbies of people here. What are they? Please, tell me more.