Higher Self keeps saying “Love”, but my self-concept says “I can do better”, ego or truth?

Hi everyone, I’m looking for a Neville-style interpretation.

I’ve done a lot of guided meditations and inner work. In multiple meditations, when I “check in” with my higher self, I’m shown a future where I’m married to someone who, in my current 3D, looks completely unavailable and the circumstances look like it would never happen. The weird part is, every time I ask “what’s the advice?”, I keep getting one word: Love.

Here’s where I’m confused.

On one hand, if EIYPO and “everything comes from self” is taken seriously, then “love” is basically self-love, choosing a loving state, choosing the version of me who is secure, chosen, and at peace. I can understand that. In the meditations, the version of me in that future feels softer, happier, more loving, and it feels like love is what got me through everything.

On the other hand, in day-to-day self-concept work, another voice comes up that’s like: “I can do better. I don’t even want this person. Betrayal already happened. Why would I choose that?” And that also sounds like self-love and standards, not desperation.

So my question is: How do you personally differentiate between “ego protection” vs “true self-concept/self-love” when both can sound like self-respect?

Is “I can do better” a clean state (choosing myself), or is it a reactionary state (hurt/defence/trying to regain control)? And if my inner guidance keeps saying “love”, does that mean persist in a loving assumption with this person, or does it mean love myself enough to release it?

I’m not asking anyone to tell me what to do with my life. I’m asking how you interpret this through Neville’s lens, states, self-concept, EIYPO, and inner guidance.

Would appreciate grounded perspectives, especially from people who’ve navigated betrayal + manifestation work

Thanks.