I (28F) am secretly dating the same guy as my best friend (28F). Talk to her about it is not a option.

My best friend and I are on a trip together. One day, she went to a place without me and met a guy, with whom she spent some time that day. She told me about him because, even though she thought he was very cute, she felt very confused about him since they didn’t kiss and he didn’t even flirt.

A few days later, they went on two dates. There was still no kissing and no flirting, but I knew she was interested in him. She then invited me to go with them to a bar. The guy and I instantly connected. We shared the same interests and had the same sense of humor, and I noticed that he was much more talkative with me than with her. I also noticed that he looked at me a lot. She noticed this too and later told me that it made her feel insecure.

Since I knew she was interested in him, I went back to our hotel and left them alone. My friend made a move on the guy and they kissed. She later told me that she had to do everything because he didn’t seem very interested. They ended up having sex, she really liked it, and she told me she plans to come back to see him again later this year.

Fast forward to now, my friend has gone home, but I am still in the city where she met the guy. He is also here. He added me on Instagram and invited me to go out last night, which I didn’t tell my best friend. We went out together, and he was very flirtatious and complimented me all the time, which I know he didn’t do with my best friend because she told me.

Would it be wrong if I kissed him if he makes a move?

Talk to her about that is not a option.