Think I misread everything?
I’m good friends with a very friendly, slightly introverted guy (27M). We usually only hang out in group settings. One night, we went to an event together, and he had to drop me off pretty late. I joked about how coffee places should be open 24/7, and he casually offered to make me some at his place. Since we’re close friends, I didn’t think much of it. I’ll admit I’ve caught feelings for him, but I’ve been careful not to act on them because I don’t want to disrupt the friendship or our group dynamic.
This ended up being the first time we hung out one on one. At his place, I grabbed the coffee and sat on the couch. He’s always been very respectful and mindful of boundaries, so I expected him to sit across from me but instead, he sat next to me. I wasn’t very covered, and the closeness caught me off guard. We sat facing each other. At one point, another friend briefly stopped by to drop something off. Later, she told me the room felt noticeably tense.
I’m naturally awkward, so I avoided eye contact most of the time. Still, I noticed from the corner of my eye that whenever I spoke, he was looking directly at me. At one point, I mentioned that guys don’t usually like me back, so I don’t really try anymore. He responded by saying there’s a lot to like which I assumed was him being his typical friendly self.
I kept assuming he wasn’t interested in me romantically and that I might even be imposing. It felt like I was all up in his space. After about an hour of talking, I apologized for taking up his time, and he drove me home.
Now it feels like he’s sorta being awkward around me. He still talks to me but it feels weird. Later, I found out he’s been actively dating other women after all this, which made me wonder if I had imagined the tension altogether and read too much into everything.
Posted Jan 8, 2026, 2:50 AM UTC