[F4F] Take me on your shared/open journey

Who brought it up? You, or your husband? I never had the courage. There was pillow talk, but I didn't think he was serious. And then, sort of, he was. But it's such an easy thing for a guy to suggest, isn't it? They don't really appreciate the complexity of the whole situation. It's just some easy porn decision for them. They're men, They'd sleep with anything.

They don't understand what we understand. Sur,e they're into it when they're horny. But, how are they going to feel afterwards? Their otherwise valinilla wife naked in bed with some guy that's been courting her for the past month.

And they might not always consider the anxieties around sex that we have. Its easy enough for men to htink, well, hot guy, why wouldn't you want to do that? It's more complicated than that. Just because a guy is hot doesn't mean he'll be any good... And, he might say the wrong thing, or have a weird personality.

But if we can get past all of those things, it sort of makes us a different type of woman, doesn't it? Broken free from the chains and pressures of societal monogamy. All that patriarchal nonsense about women having to be faithful to one man. It doesn't have to be like that...