Gifts being taken back

I’m into ~18 days of NC. I’m confident the relationship is over. dated for 12 months, long distance.

I just remembered the first gift she gave to me (it was her perfume, artisanal, very fancy and expensive). She gifted it to me in January. I kept it almost like an ornament on my shelf, still in its original handcrafted wooden box, I loved the scent. We spoke a lot about her perfumes. She secretly took it back in September, I didn’t realise until November (when I went to go smell it). It hurt me a lot, but after 30 minutes of processing it, I calmly texted her about it. She said she felt ashamed for it and was going to replace it next time she came to visit me. That never happened.

There had been many similar instances, including having to transfer her money for stuff she no longer wanted to have paid for. And other times asking for things back during a split and then later regretting it and saying that she doesn’t want me to give anything back (I actually complied and gave back whatever she asked for, except for polaroid photos).

Ive never been angry about it, it’s just sad that “gifts” are not true gifts, it’s all conditional on how she felt.