For context: I’m on maternity leave, due to give birth any day now. I knew my dad knew I was pregnant as we live in a small town but I’ve had 0 contact with him and I’d like it to stay that way, I’ve had to do a lot of work and make peace with not having parents around when my daughter is born (mum (who divorced my dad about 8 years ago) died just before Christmas 2022, I fell out with dad over her funeral plans 5 days before her funeral in January 2023 and I cut all contact. He wasn’t ever an active parent growing up and this was the straw that broke the camels back after years of me trying to maintain a relationship with him).

I had a work colleague message me to say that my dad had been in my work for an appointment and had asked when my due date was, colleague didn’t tell him. My friend who I also work with also messaged me giving more details about what was said. He told my work colleague he would find out when I’m due from my brother (who isn’t NC with him but my dad doesn’t bother with my brother or his family, my brother isn’t his biological son, dad still claims he raised him) and would send me flowers and I would “just have to deal with it”. Feeling almost embarrassed for him!

I’m not surprised tbh, but I’m also a bit pissed off because WHY NOW OF ALL TIMES?? Don’t really know why I’m posting about this to be honest, I might end up deleting. Guess I’m just curious to hear opinions from other people who are estranged from a parent/parents.

Been NC with my dad for 3 years. Due to give birth any day now. Learned this happened today and just need to vent about it I guess?