What are off putting things someone might do that makes you not want to get to know them.

I have struggled throughout college to make friends. I’ve joined many different clubs, taken classes, joined teams and in all of them I can’t connect with anyone, people distance, and I get left out.

I have some trauma and stuff so healthy friendships weren’t modeled for me, and I probably am doing some unintentionally off putting things. I’d love some avenues to explore to improve.

One situation that I find the most confusing was I was asked to grab coffee with a girl in my club who had recently joined. I felt the interaction went well we had a lot in common, I shared reciprocally, I asked questions and listened, I didn’t overshare, I can’t think of anything obvious I may have done but then at the next club meeting she wouldn’t talk to me at all.

I’m open to the idea I may be doing things that rub people the wrong way without knowing. I have watched lots of videos and read lots of books and have been in therapy for 5 years and worked on my social skills.

Any ideas are greatly appreciated.