my LO is going to jail

I have known my LO (limerence object) for around four years now. we have been on and off contact through those years. I most recently broke no-contact in the summer last year and we have been talking daily ever since. he lives across the country and our chats are filled with empty “I wish you were here” texts that will never go anywhere. half of the time i feel like he is talking at me for an ego boost. he doesn’t actually listen or care about what i have to say and goes right back to talking about himself. I wish I could go no contact again but I feel terrible even trying to bring it up because he is facing three months in jail. I was planning on going no contact when he was locked up, but he told me he wrote my number on paper he plans on bringing in with him.

I hate that I think about him constantly and that I can’t let go of him even though this situation brings absolutely no value into my life. it drains me mentally & emotionally. I feel like I am more worried about his jail sentence than he is. this man lives in delulu land.

I wish I could just ghost him and stop responding when he reaches out to me. but my brain replays all the good times I have had with him, like when he flew me out to visit for valentine’s day. and for that I feel like I owe him my time and energy. I want to be there and support him while he is locked up, but at the same time I am tired of my time and energy being wasted on a fantasy that will never go anywhere. I don’t know what to do, the inconsistency and uncertainty I feel in this situation drives me crazy but also it truly breaks my heart to think about him being in jail.