Wow, you all weren't lying. My first (and second and third and fourth) real NEO.

I want to admit this right off the bat: I was skeptical of the discussion of NEOs here. I've been occasionally reading this subreddit for a long time, and have never quite believed that people can really have full-fledged orgasms without ejaculating.

And I say that as someone who has no problem separating ejaculation from orgasm in the other direction. For a while now, I've been able to leak cum very reliably, well in advance of the PONR and without that ruined feeling, using a special technique involving cycles of being hard and soft. And I'm also super into handsfree orgasms and achieve them regularly, including while soft.

But until last week, the closest I had come to a NEO was using a method I learned here, where you rub the head of your cock in circles. I'd reached a lovely plateau that way that felt like an orgasm in a lot of ways, but didn't feel like I was ever "going over an edge," which for me is pretty critical to the orgasm experience.

But now I know my skepticism was misplaced. My first NEO was the best solo sex experience of my entire life.

As background, and this might be a bit controversial here, I am a huge fan of porn and watch hours every day. I like to edge and love to watch porn while I do so, and I consider porn to be a positive part of my sex life. So my masturbation almost always includes porn, even when I'm going for a HFO/mindgasm or otherwise not just normally jerking off.

Recently I've been edging on my own time and generally saving orgasms for sex with my partner, which has made our sex amazing. I get super pent up and lust after her. Then, as the new year approached, I decided that I would save my hard dick for my partner, keeping myself soft whenever I was alone, but still allowing myself to watch porn and have soft HFOs when I want to. You can read my post about this resolution here.

After I posted about the resolution on r/EdgingTalk, something clicked and it became very real. And the prospect of sticking to the resolution got me incredibly horny. I spent the whole day thinking about the challenge, how fun it would be, how awesome my sex with my partner was going to be, etc. And I couldn't stop checking reddit and scrolling videos of dicks cumming handsfree, premature and flaccid cumshots, caged dicks cumming, and similar stuff.

I have long loved getting turned on while staying soft. It's super easy for me to stay soft if I want to, and I adore the floaty, tingly feeling of getting completely enraptured in porn or fantasies without touching my dick and without my dick getting hard. I've also been able to cum handsfree while soft for a while, using my mind (stimulated by porn) alone with no thrusting against underwear or humping or whatever.

Eventually that night, I got in bed and started to drift off. But my horniness woke me up shortly after I fell asleep. And then it started. My dick just entered this state where it very, very slowly got more and more tingly. I lay there just focusing on the sensation with my eyes closed as it built and built and built and built.

And then it just... happened. I had a NEO. A real orgasm with no cum and no refractory period, lasting like a full minute. I've never felt anything like that in my life. I let myself have three more of those, and then I sort of flipped a switch in my mind and forced the next time to be a wet orgasm, which was unbelievably good. Afterwards, I just sat there panting and whispering almost involuntarily, to myself, about how good what just happened had felt.

At no time in this entire process did I touch myself or hump my sheets, or really move at all. I was never hard. It was a pure, flaccid, handsfree experience.

So what made it happen? Well, to be honest, I think posting on reddit has a lot to do with it. I came up with the idea for my 2026 plan because everyone on r/EdgingTalk was talking about their resolutions. And I think the idea of only getting hard for my partner just had me completely on fire with excitement and lust, and that has remained true in the days that followed. As soon as I came up with the idea, I was completely locked in and committed. I'm doing this for real. And I think that excitement and anticipation and it being so deeply real got to me in a very visceral way, so my body rewarded me with a new experience.

And then it happened again the next night. Drifting off to sleep after thinking about sex all day, awoken by how horny I was, then focusing on the tingling of my dick until the NEO came again.

I've been busier in the days since, so haven't been able to get that pent up again and haven't had any more. But I think I can make it happen now if I put the right conditions into place. And I may try to do that again tonight if I can.

Anyway, that's how I had my first few NEOs. I know it's not a normal "technique," and I know that this is probably not particularly useful to anyone else as a guide for how to get there, but I just want to say it's absolutely real and it's amazing and I'm sorry I ever doubted it.