Getting over someone by getting under someone does NOT make you pathetic, needy, or desperate.

A couple years ago I met a fellow Redditor who was constantly horny, could mostly keep up with me, and told me I was the best lay he'd ever had a few minutes into our first fuck. He moved in and then moved across the country with me and my husband. He had some non-monogamy trauma and we both put in a lot of work to help him through it. I put having sex with others on hold and he made great progress. After the move he slowly froze me out, and not for lack of effort on my part mind you. I broke up with him and told him he could ask me out again after getting himself together and treating me right. I kept fucking him, cuddling him to sleep, and being loving and supportive, but all efforts to get the guy I loved to come back were stonewalled. Well, the other day he tells me that he doesn't want to date again and is happy as roommates and FWBs. Bro didn't deserve a quarter of the effort or love I put into him, but that's okay. You don't need know that you've got until you lose it, and by the time he figures it out it'll be too late.

I have my sexual autonomy back as I no longer need to manage his feelings, and I have made plans to meet up with five potential FWBs next week. Public opinion seems to be that this makes me pathetic, desperate, and needy, but the opposite is true. There's nothing wrong with making up for lost time. Safe sex can be a powerful tool to build confidence, especially after being mistreated in a relationship. If I were desperate and needy, I wouldn't have bothered narrowing the list down from the hundreds who have messaged me expressing interest. If I was pathetic, a majority of them wouldn't be submissive and eager to please me. I am a sexual deity, and anyone who shares my bed is damn lucky for the opportunity.

Sexually repressed people will look for opportunities to shame you, but that's a reflection on them. Live your best life, get laid, and let the haters jerk it alone in their mom's basement. 😘