What level of effort is it that men are looking for?

I have had 2 men this week say to me "I wasn't sure if you were interested" one when I questioned him about his lack of effort and one I had not spoken too for a few days.

The first one I speak to daily have been for about 5 weeks, and have suggested meeting up a few times but he doesn't seem to take the initiative and plan anything so I got fed up and confronted him about his lack of initiative.

The second asked 2 days ago if I fancied a phone call later and I said "should be fine", didn't hear from him again until he said I just don't think you're as interested as I am.

I respond to their messages in a timely manner, I make conversation and ask questions but I do expect them to initially put in more of the leg work. My question is are men now requiring to be courted in the way women might expect to be?

I feel like these men want to be chased, but maybe I'm being unfair. What do the men here expect from a woman they are newly speaking too?