Anyone who has left their husband because of a toxic MIL, did he ever realize his mom was the problem? If so, did he finally confront her?

My husband seems to just be coasting. We get into constant arguments about his mother and her treatment of me. He refuses to say anything until it’s too late. Then we argue more and he starts going off about “fine, you want me to say something to her now? I’ll get into a screaming match with her if I have to.” And I’m like “NO, I want you to say something when it’s HAPPENING.”

I just don’t know if I can deal with this anymore. His inability to set boundaries with his mom and leaving me to drown in the mess is going to be the end of us.

He refuses to have a calm conversation with her when things are happening. He wants to wait and wait until I’ve had enough and explode on him to then scream at her cause I “riled him up.”

I can’t do this anymore. I just can’t.

I don’t want to be here.