Something that kinda bothers me about a lot of readings though most mediums and psychics mean well

It’s the frequently pushed idea that every harmful and destabilizing thing that happens to someone is meant to have a lesson, growth and wisdom attached to it. It carries the implied message that the negative experiences are somehow deserved and therefore the person must roll with the punches, even though the person who had to live through the experience did absolutely nothing wrong. The world is messy, people can be terrible, some experiences are just harmful, full stop, and that’s okay