Anxiety inducing messages

Does anyone else hate answering phone calls? Especially sometimes I am just like wanting to relax or doom scroll and it interrupts my time. Phone calls/FaceTime gives me anxiety for the simple fact I feel like I need to agree or say yes to whatever the person is about to ask me like I’m caught off guard.

My friends know this about me it’s the on going joke that I don’t answer phone calls and my one friend who’s a guy was best friends with my ex previously (they don’t talk anymore thank god). Anyways he’s dating my friend so three of us are very close friends now.

Whenever I don’t answer calls lately he’ll say “call me asap I have something to tell you about *insert ex’s name*.” Now this is something in the past if one of them said sometimes it really was some gossip to tell me. They do this now (he) just as a way to get me to call him lol. It makes me so anxious because sometimes I really don’t know if it’s a joke or not.

Most times I assume it is but it drives me crazy! This is an ex who btw is a very big source of trauma for me lol not an amicable ex. How would anyone feel about their friend doing this? He’s a guy so I get he doesn’t think about things the same way women do but still like cmon.