AITAH for walking in front of my girlfriend on a group hike?

A few days ago my girlfriend(22F) and I (21M) went on a hike together with a group of friends. Just to give some context we wanted to go on this hike together to play matchmaker with 2 of our friends because they had good chemistry at this party we had on new years.

I’m going to call her friend Jess and my friend’s name is going to be Max. So this hike is a hike in the night thats not really a hike. You just hop a fence and walk half a mile to this campfire. I’m the only one who’s ever been on this hike in the group. The plan was to have everybody meet at my place so we could take 1 car and head over to the campfire.

Everybody gets to my place except Max so we are just waiting for him. My girlfriend and her friends are all talking and I notice one of my friends I invited wasn’t being included in the conversation at all. So I wanted to get her talking so she didn’t feel like she wasn’t welcomed. I ask my friend if she wanted to take shrooms for her first time hiking as a joke. I thought it was a pretty obvious joke because I didn’t have any shrooms on me and I’ve never taken them. Thats when Jess starts talking to her and telling her its a bad idea and she says “Yeah you’re way smarter than him. You’re not as dumb as he is.” right in front of me and my girl. I look at my girl and she just kinda smiles at me. I felt disrespected by this comment for obvious reasons and it threw my mood off because I expected my girlfriend to say something to her friend about that comment but she didn’t.

Max gets to my place and we leave to go on the hike. On the whole hike I’m walking ahead of my girlfriend because I’m the only one that knows the trail and I wasn’t in the mood to be by her or her friend that made that comment toward me.

She see’s something is bothering me at the campfire so I tell her that comment her friend made was wrong. She said she completely zoned out when Jess and my friend were talking and didn’t hear it. I assumed she heard it so I felt pretty dumb in the moment.

We walk back to the car and head back to my place and everyone leaves except for Max, my friend, and my girlfriend. We were playing a drinking game just to have fun and we got pretty drunk. My friends uber back to their place and me and my girl are in my room talking about the night.

She apologized for her friends comment but also started talking about how she felt when I was walking ahead. She was pretty irritated when expressing how she felt and I apologized and then she made this comment that I didn’t really like. She said “Why was Max the only man helping me on the hike and you weren’t.” When I heard this it hurt me because it did make me feel really shitty about myself. I also just felt really disrespected about that comment because I already explained why I was walking ahead of her and that comment just felt unnecessary. I understand she was upset about me walking ahead but I feel like she could have said “Why weren’t you helping me.”

I don’t really know what to make of this situation it’s confusing to me I’ve never had something like this happen before. Oh also another big reason I didn’t want to walk by her and her friend after that comment was because my girlfriend asked me if she could kiss jess on new years. So AITAH for walking ahead of her?

Posted Jan 11, 2026, 8:08 PM UTC

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