Compatibility issues, mindset differences between my boyfriend and I

Good evening reddit

I am having some concerns as of recently . I am a (23) F with a 23( M). In a very long term relationship ( 5Y). My boyfriend and I are two very different people , in which I don’t tend to mind, I believe two personalities is what makes life interesting. However , the older I’ve gotten, the more I’m starting to understand that we may not be on the same page like we used to be. We first got together and our priorities were quite similar , I was quite an irresponsible teen and so was my boyfriend. We were on the rougher side of life for a while there. Within the past year I have made the decision to shed off the irresponsible layer and start to take life a little bit more seriously. My boyfriend has followed as far as the materialistic side of things but not quite the mindset aspect of growth. I tend to see myself as an optimistic individual, of course I have pessimistic views occasionally. I have experienced a lot of hardships and I truly don’t see the point on dwelling on those situations for a very long time. In conclusion , my boyfriend has also been through some hardships with his family. Very understandable situations that he is going through they are not easy. Im just having a difficult time trying to revert him to a more optimistic side of things , he tends to look at everything quite negatively and he lets it stop him from growth. He tends to blame why hes treating me certain ways on the experiences hes having with his family . Again I understand it’s hard , we have very similar family events. Fast foward , I have the idea of potentially leaving my home town, I live in a rural area that I am just not too fond of anymore. I have also been saving for a house but his main priority is to buy a sports car first, it feels very 1 sided. Aside from that my hometown is a very cheap place to live and I am paid quite well , but I don’t really want to stay if there is no mindset growth in this town . I have a lot of experiences and it’s hard to progress when I am reminded on a daily basis. My boyfriend seems to be against going to college and potentially moving to another state, hes not completely against it but he tends to shut it down and states he needs to stay here for family and his job. It feels like he would chose his toxic family over me and it’s very hurtful and hard to get him to understand my perspective. I love him dearly and I would love to bring him with me, I don’t want to stay in this small town but I fear I may have to leave him behind. I can’t make a decision because aside from the negativity he is a very loving boyfriend who means a lot to me . I value our relationship but our future goals and mindsets seem to be conflicting . I apologize for the lengthy paragraph and if anyone needs extra details I would be happy to give them . Thank you for the read 💓