Have you ever had discipline collide with someone else’s expectations?

Something that keeps catching me out isn’t laziness or lack of effort, it’s what happens when my structure runs into another person’s assumptions. I’ll have a clear plan for how I’m using my time, then a small social moment bends it without anyone explicitly asking. A casual “are you free?” message. Someone assuming I’ll handle a thing because I usually do. I don’t feel pressured exactly, but I also don’t feel free to say no without friction, so I quietly absorb it. What’s strange is that nothing dramatic happens in the moment. I still get things done. The cost shows up later, when I’m irritated at myself for feeling derailed even though no one actually forced me. It’s like my discipline works fine in isolation, but becomes fragile in shared space, where expectations are implied rather than stated. I’m trying to understand whether this is a boundary problem, a communication problem, or just the reality of operating around other people. Do you notice your discipline slipping not because of internal resistance, but because of subtle social gravity you didn’t consciously agree to?