Really worried

I’m a 37F, 4 kids, BRCA 2+. I have not had a pap for a few years (crazy couple of years). After a slew of symptoms..heavy watery discharge, heavy menstruation and bleeding at irregular times, I felt something was off. I went to a gyno who once started examining me said she “never saw a cervix like this” when I asked her to elaborate she said “ your cervix is all white.. I’m going to get another doctor to look” The other doctor comes in cold demeanor, I might add and takes a look and says “she needs to be referred to gyno-oncologist right away..we’re not even going to wait for the pap results” and walks out, I start crying as I knew something was off and have a strong family history of cancer and the nurse just kept saying it’s ok you’ll get through this… I just keep replaying the faces they made and the things they said -it’s terrifying me. I have my consultation this week. Has anyone had a similar experience? What can I expect at that consult?