moving on from someone(hyperfixating on them) - the switch that worked for me

Hi, I'm an ENTJ and I have this issue where once in a long while I get obsessively stuck on someone but it's a need for control. Like I want to control everyone they look at, talk to etc but at the same time I lowkey hate many things about them yet try to "compromise". I was stuck on such a shituationship for quite some time now. And today, I've finally made that switch by asking these 3 questions and genuinely reminding myself these facts about me-

1. do I want to give them back the same control I want(need) over them ?

I am talking about everything from social media passwords to real life hanging out with friends, knowing everything, sharing photos, memories.

2. if he was the last guy I ever get love from, will I feel loved by him?

hell no. so it's about a matter of time that after I win this mental game that has bruised my ego and hijacked my control issues, I will be looking for something else.

3. if all these hurdles were not there and it was just me and him (replace him with someone without these mental gymnastics in my current life) would I still choose him?

I highly doubt we would even talk or that he would be any more than my acquaintance whose name I vaguely remember. some people trigger a certain problem solving side in me, that makes me hyperfixate on them but it's definitely not "love".

hope it helps someone.