i feel exhausted.. i want to cancel everything

Planning

We plan to elope in Colorado. we already have videographer, photographer, gown, hotel, flight booked, venue, cake, flower. The only thing we’re missing? a PASTOR - someone who is faith-based, who can do a religious ceremony for 10-15mins including exchange of rings. We already made it official by doing the legal papers first, so the pastor will only do readings/blessings. We don’t want to self-solemnize as our main purpose is to have a religious ceremony as our main ceremony. We won’t be able to invite our families as they live far away, hence, we are eloping.

I couldn’t fathom how some pastor’s/officiant charge so much ($500-$1500) for a brief ceremony. I feel so defeated that i couldn’t find someone who can accept our budget (200-250) as a donation to their church.

I thought elopement would be the easier and cheaper for us. And i thought finding a pastor would be the last thing i’d stress about.

Posted Jan 14, 2026, 12:07 AM UTC

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