Please help me avoid resentment. I’m struggling.

This is a throwaway account because I’m so ashamed of myself for saying this. But I’m beginning to develop such a bad resentment towards the other bi subs and it’s really messing with my head.

I’ll just be straightforward about it. The male centered culture on the other bi subs on this site has completely warped my view of bi men in general. I have a preference for bi4bi relationships but the way the men in mixed subs have behaved has had such a bad impact on my worldview and it’s fucking me up to say that because I feel terrible. I’ve met plenty of great bi men outside of the bi subs (like in hobby subs and the like) so I feel awful that my mind is becoming so biased against bi men. But my god, some of the comments I’ve seen from bi men in bi spaces on Reddit have been sticking to me since I read them. Some of the most hurtful things I’ve ever read towards women and trans people.

I’ve been trying so hard to force myself to forget all the things I’ve read. The way the mixed subs operate with men and women has only made things worse for me. I assumed that reading through mixed subreddits would allow me to read more balanced views and posts since it’s a mixed gender sub, but all I see there is a resentment towards women in general and even bi women. I see so many posts criticizing bi women’s behavior, which is absolutely fine and even excellent to do! But then when women do the same for bi men and criticize bi men’s misogyny in the bi subreddits, suddenly it’s “how dare you generalize all men”

I feel like maybe this is confirmation bias and I’m happy to acknowledge my own biases. But it feels like I’m being gaslit. It feels like women are just not believed whenever they point out misogyny. There were countless times I’ve seen people say “weird I’ve never seen this behavior before” when some women bring up this male centered culture and it’s really messing with my head.

I just really need help because I wish I could just go back to being how I used to be before Reddit. I was literally just a normal person with no resentment. The main advice I’ve been trying to give myself is “get off of Reddit” but my resentment is so bad I’m afraid it has warped my real life worldviews and they just won’t go away no matter how much I try to force it.

Edit: I just want to thank people’s kind responses and advice. Your empathy will not be forgotten, and I am very happy to know this will not be forever. Thank you guys!!!!