As their daughter I forgive them but as a parent how dare they??

Do you ever tell someone something and as you’re saying it realize how fucked up it is?

I was talking to my neighbor earlier today. Our kids are similar ages (3). I had my son at 16, about 20 years younger than her, and was laughing about how my husband and I have been talking about whether or not we want another kid (probably no haha). She said pregnancy was the worst part for her and I said it was childbirth for me. She talked about the epidural and I just kind of laughed and said that I was still a minor when I had my son so my parents didn’t let me get one.

I guess I had never really thought that was a weird thing but the look on her face made me realize how fucked up it was. I know my parents were mad at me, they are religious so of course abortion was out of the question but I never realized I could have had an epidural until now.

I know I have a son and not a daughter but I would never do anything to make him be in anymore pain than he has to, no matter what.

Sorry I’m kind of all over the place. I can’t really talk to my husband about this stuff because he already hates my parents so much. I get it but it’s like I don’t need an I told you so.

Please dont tell me to do therapy. It’s a whole thing. And it’s not free. I’m on a waiting list.