How to move on or meet other people

This time last year I had my first lesbian relationship and it kind of made me realize that I’m been comphet up until this point in my life. The relationship itself was awful, they wouldnt tell me how they felt, only invited me over at night, and lead me on for months calling me “my [name]” and when I asked why they call me that they said they call all their friends that. To be completely honest I have only had two crushes my entire life and I can’t get over the fact that I found someone who I like to a T and they broke my heart.

I’ve never felt anything like that. The pain and confusion along with beating my self up for not knowing better. Everything hurts. Even now I haven’t spoken to them in months but I think about them everyday, I want them but I don’t because they hurt me. I want to be in their arms but I can’t because I hate the way they make me feel.

My dumbass checked socials and it looks like they have a girlfriend. Which hurt so much. I know it’s normal to have moved on at this point but I just have such a hard time being attracted to anyone and I don’t want to wait another 3 years for my next crush 😭

Where do y’all go to meet women in the Midwest?