Trans man avoiding dating and sex cuz of my top surgery scars
hey so I got top surgery in July of 2025 and I absolutely do not regret it and I'm very happy that I did but also my scars are hypertrophic and very visible and because of that I've been nervous about dating and sex, recently someone has been flirting with me and asked me out on a date and I don't know what to do, I really like them and want to say yes but I'm worried that if it goes well and they ever want to be sexual and/or see me shirtless they will lose attraction to me and I'm so scared. I'm so scared of dating in general and I've denied flirting like people asking to hookup because I've been scared of them seeing my chest and no longer being attracted but this is different cuz this person wants to like actually go on a real date and I actually have a genuinely real interest in them which makes it even more scary. I don't know what to do, I really like them but I'm scared.Sorry if I sound immature, I'm 18.
Posted Jan 19, 2026, 5:32 PM UTC