i think im getting plural any advice???

I don't (didn't??) have DID but im going through the worst trauma of my life (saw my dad die on monday and my husband of 10 years has been continuously breaking my heart since that day and i don't think i want to be with him anymore)

and i can feel myself splitting into different guys which is proving very helpful to navigate getting stuff done (eg driving, getting my stuff so i can go to my moms)

but also I'm scared to get memory issues and become more neurodivergent etc etc etc etc (i don't think I'm getting memory issues at the moment)

what do i do to stay as mentally healthy as possible? im buddhist so im trying to acknowledge and honor the guys as they come up. i assume I'm probably not supposed to fight this but i don't want to get to a point where I'm getting memory issues or becoming diff guys at the wrong moment

here are my guys that i have observed so far bc i think it is interesting

- alpha wolf. gets shit done, can wield the power of "blood spoons" (powering through my physical disability at the expense of my health). deserves to heal and be allowed to relax and be a puppy.

- hope. like a small child. wants me to get back with my husband, comfort and normalcy. but the general consensus is that he cannot provide that. so i am telling it i am the one taking care of it now. i think this one is also embodied in other emotions such as anxiety

- angry teenager. from a workbook my friend has. self explanatory. likes angry music.

- loving parent. also from my friend's workbook but actually i think i got that one from thich nhat hanh lectures. comforts young guys and other processes that don't necessarily have an attached guy.

- ufw which is literally a firewall used on Linux servers. this is the one that says, no more. feels cold and resolute. revokes permissions to my heart from those who hurt me. takes a lot of energy to run and deserves to relax

anyway does anyone have any advice so i don't go crazy