Are we there yet?

Earlier, when I come across posts complaining about how prospects in arranged marriage set up are not good, I used to feel sorry for the OPs.

But now after spending significant time, I am no longer feeling sorry for them. Because the OPs (including me) are not saints either.

People complain of discrimination, then they discriminate others.

People complain of gold digging, then they look for wealthy prospect.

People complain of dowry, then they want high earning prospect.

People complain of no communication, then they ghost.

People complain lack of emotional intelligence, then they act avoidant.

People complain lack of independence, then they depend on their parents for every decision.

So, instead of complaining, we need to look at ourselves and work on our own issues.