Mixed signals or just Scorpio things?

I’m a Cancer woman seeing a Scorpio man and I’m struggling to read him.

We hit it off instantly and have seen each other three times while clubbing with our shared friend group. Each time he let me sleep over at his place and was very respectful; no intimacy beyond small pecks. The third time he kissed me and showed affection toward me in front of his friends.

In person he’s intense, warm, flirty, lots of eye contact and affection. Over text he’s the complete opposite: short messages, once a day at most. Because I didn’t want to chase, I stopped initiating. After a while he asked me to hang out one-on-one and we ended up talking nonstop for 10 hours. We cuddled, held each other, kissed, but didn’t go beyond that. He even drove me home at 2 am.

We talked openly about where this leaves us. Neither of us is ready for a relationship, but we agreed we could be friends with benefits without restrictions (the only agreement being honesty if asked about seeing others). There’s strong sexual tension, yet we still haven’t slept together. He even said he prefers cuddling over sex and thinks sex is overrated.

He often tells me how funny and cute I am. We both have ADHD, and I struggle a bit with the intense eye contact, flirting, and “playing it cool.” I get obsessed easily (no feelings yet), but I’m consciously holding back because I know Scorpios don’t like being chased.

Recently he asked me to hang out with him and his friends for a birthday. I declined but offered another day. Plans then got postponed on both sides. I then thought it's my turn to ask him to hang out. He said he’d be busy and gave a vague “maybe” about meeting after work. I made other plans. I then said we can see each other another time, as I am off from work quite often at the moment. He responded quite abruptly, that I should “just let him know” when I’m free.

Now I’m unsure whether to leave him alone or ask again. There’s clear chemistry, but also mixed signals. Is this typical Scorpio behavior, or am I overthinking this? What should I be wary of when dealing with a Scorpio like this? Am I ruining it by being obsessed?

I was always quite scared of Scorpios so I'd love some insight from people who know scorpios best!