How do you open yourself up to dating after years of being closed off?

I’m a 24M, naturally shy, and this is something I’ve gone back and forth on posting but here it goes.

I’ve only dated once in my life. I was around 14–15, and she was my first love in every sense of the word. Sadly, she passed away. Losing her at that age changed me more than I realized at the time. After that, I slowly withdrew. I struggled with loneliness and depression, and instead of people, I found comfort in books, studies, and being by myself. I isolated alot not out of bitterness, but because it felt safer. Over time, academics became my entire world. I completed my bachelor’s in computer engineering and eventually moved to Ireland for my master’s.

Now, for the first time in years, I feel like I’m in a healthier place emotionally. I feel ready, genuinely ready to let someone in again. The problem is, I don’t really know how. I don’t do clubbing or parties, and I’ve realized my social skills, especially around women are… pretty underdeveloped. I’m not afraid of women, I just don’t know how to start, how to talk, or how to build something naturally when I’ve spent so many years alone.

I’m putting this out there partly to ask for advice, but also to be honest about where I’m at. I’m someone who values deep conversations, kindness, and emotional connection. I’m open to dating, getting to know someone slowly, and seeing where things go even if that starts with a simple conversation.

If you’ve been in a similar place, or if you have advice (or even curiosity), I’d really appreciate hearing from you.