Need your inputs. On a mission to guide people to gain clarity before marriage?

As the title suggests.

I am on a mission to help men gain clarity before commitment, especially in arranged marriages. Consider this my domain. This is where I show up the most.

In 2020, I learnt my lesson. Within a few months, my life shattered after I found out about the unfaithful nature of my then spouse.

Fast-forward to 2026, I worked on myself. Inner healing, gym, communication, a no-compromise attitude, grooming. I stopped chasing women. Things changed. I started getting approached instead.

That shift led to 500+ arranged marriage interactions and a lot of insights. Over the years, I started believing something strongly: most telltale signs are there before commitment. We either ignore them, or we don’t understand how they can derail life later.

It started becoming obvious in 2024. Friends would gather and talk about the women they were speaking to for marriage. I could see the patterns they were missing, and I could spot subtle cues about what might go wrong. In many cases, I was right.

That same year, the Bengaluru techie case shook me. I couldn’t imagine what he went through. It reminded me of my time, and how much worse it could have been. It was unsettling. I decided that none of the guys around me would go through something like that, at least as long as I’m around.

In 2025, I took it seriously and started writing to help more people. I also met a guy who had never been in a relationship and was genuinely confused by women. He would struggle because what his prospect said and how she acted didn’t match. I stepped in.

The guy who once chased girls was now being chased, and more importantly, had done the inner work. I guided him through clarity, patterns, and communication. Today he knows what he is looking for, and he considers it a success because he can notice patterns and respond appropriately. That gave me confidence that I can genuinely help people.

Since then, I’ve been privileged to guide men, and even women, in seeking clarity.

I write blogs [Quora], I post in arranged marriage subreddits, I created a subreddit, and I even tried Twitter live spaces so we can discuss, share insights, and learn collectively.

But now I am seeking your help and ideas on how I can help more people. You can be harsh. If you feel I’m doing something wrong or coming across poorly, say it. I will work on it.