How do I tell nmom I don’t want her living with me & living off my money anymore?

I (mid-late 20s) moved out of home to live in a 2 bed 2 baht apartment by myself to get away from my nmom (50). Nmom has not worked for over 10 years and has lived off my or my siblings money and other peoples financial support since I was in my teens (my dad isn’t in the picture).

However I got a major surgery and she came to look after me for the months during recovery and lived in my apartment. Turns out she didnt have money to keep renting the house so she moved in with me. It was fine for a bit but now I’m really feeling the effects of it. I hate her and how she does nothing but lie down all day scrolling Facebook reels and living off my hard earned money.

I have to pay everything for both me and her, including the full rent, all electricity & water bills, her phone bills, our groceries, food, every single thing comes from my hard earned money. And she doesn’t even feel bad or ask if I can financially afford this. She’s just decided for herself that she deserves to be retired (with no savings, no car, no house, no investments, no insurance, no NOTHING), and she thinks it’s my responsibility to financially support her forever cuz she’s raised me under tough circumstances and now she finally “deserves a break”. But I have dreams, goals, a life I want to achieve and I cannot do that without saving a lot of money. I can’t do this anymore. I hate her face so much coming back from work super tired and seeing my apartment dirty and knowing she lied down all day watching Netflix on my TV.

I need help and advice. I need to save money AND i don’t want to live with her!!! I want to live by myself!!! What do I do. Btw we’re Asian so there is a STRONG culture of taking care of your parents and all that bs

Tldr; Broke Nmom lives with me and lives off my money and I need it to change

Posted Jan 27, 2026, 11:33 AM UTC

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