Being a needy and overthinking person/sub and finding a partner who is happy with it. [M25]

Hi, idk what to say tbh. The title states my situation. I'm a 25 year old male who's had only one vanilla relationship that lasted 2 years.

Other than that, I've met people online usually because I'm not really an initiator irl. Some of which I had hope for but they didn't end up in such way.

Yesterday, someone told me something that I could relate to from the guy's perspective and made me realize my this issue may not be so uncommon.

Here is a part of the text:

"...<previous part> it's being a woman that has immense experience with male behavior and knowing the inevitable outcome from this is you being attached and needy and me not having the energy to care to deal with it yet feeling guilty and obligated to do so. So instead of instantly skipping and being rude, I entertain it and we have a chat and then as sure as the sun sets and rises, that isn't enough. so then the pushiness starts, the begging, etc and depending on your personality it'll either end with you being sulking and rejected about it or possibly hostile and lashing out."

I'd like to state that my case has always been the former and never the lashing out version.

I'm not even sure what my question is. Am I supposed to change this aspect of mine? Am I supposed to keep looking for someone who is compatible with my current self?

We had a fun conversation for about 2 hours before this message. I'm not misinterpreting it because I asked multiple times to make sure.

And the other unsuccessful online "dynamics?" had at least a friendly and conversational chemistry, some lasted for months, most were still there even in the end.

Sorry if my question doesn't fit the format or breaks some rules.