AITAH, I asked him "me or her?".

Last night was a shit show. My bf (15) and I F(17) have been together for almost a year. A continuous problem in our relationship was his friendship with a 24 yo F. Originally I had no problems about it and even befriended her. Then she made a very inappropriate and suggestive joke in the middle of truth or dare.

I lost my mind over it, I tried talking to my bf and he told me it wasnt a big deal and when i talked to her she said she only felt okay to say it because of how long they've been friends.

That was 6 months ago. I let go of it bc no one was seeing my side so I shut up. Yesterday he had brought up how I shit talk her, "I dont like how someone I like is being continuously shit talked by someone I love."

The shit talking happened once maybe twice, and it was just me throwing insults and telling my bf that I heavily disliked her and how I dont like that they are friends. To me? That joke showed how comfortable she was insulting and disrespecting my relationship, and her reasoning for being friends was kinda shitty because, ma'am, that's a minor.

Bf asked me and her to go into a gc and talk, all while hes literally in call sitting with her (it was on a discord server so I could see). Shes mute and she communicates on the phone thru text.

Anyways we go into the group chat and she got an attitude with me first text, so I shot one right back because excuse me I'm being respected and your the literal adult. Eventually the conversation simmers down and she says that she wants to be done with the conversation, I said okay and left the gc.

She then kicked me from the server that I talk to alot of people in. Then in a ss he later sent to me she was talking about "dont take this out on him, he doesnt deserve that treatment ". EXCUSE ME??? This GROWN woman is trying to be HIS wingman rn? ABSOLUTELY NOT.

I texted him privately and it got to the question, "it me or her. Decide. Because I'm not going to continuously fight for my own comfort in OUR relationship". And he chose me.

We talked, got into another mild fight, then just called it a night. We were both exhausted. But he had made it clear to me he thought my decision was selfish and that it didnt need to happen.

6months, I was :uncomfortable, putting his happiness first, trying to get over it, trying to even reconcile with her, everything. But my decision was selfish?

Now its awkward between me and him. He says he doesnt regret it and that 45% understands why I did what I did. But he also says that he sees me as someone who will do selfish things if theres a chance something may happen again.