I think my husband has ADHD

He’s never been diagnosed with either but our marriage is suffering and I’m very close to filing for divorce.

Maybe I am just making excuses for him to not let go but some of these posts sound exactly like my husband.

He’s really not lazy, but never does anything at home

He don’t help around and I have to literally get mad at him for something to get done. Even struggled to take out trash

He is good at his job, but lacks interest. No desire for a better role or making more. He struggles showing up on time but he meets deadlines at work most of the time

At home, always late to appointments. Deadlines like bills and taxes hardly get met

Impulsive purchases, yes we almost bankrupt and took me down with him.

Is this ADHD or am I making excuses for him?