Can people be more mindful of not just using this space to complain about their exes?

Maybe it's just me, but I find it pretty ironic how many people who are not FA are here because their ex was (or someone thinks they were). Then real posts by FA people get brigaded by people complaining about their ex and how their ex was so traumatic/selfish/whatever and that must mean we are too. Do you not seen the irony?? This is like, the exact stuff that's triggering to us. I made a vulnerable post (now deleted) yesterday about what would help me in a relationship, and almost every comment was someone whose ex was FA and how I'm wrong about my own needs which actually wouldn't help me. This hurt, and it follows the pattern that creates avoidance: I open up, and my feelings aren't taken seriously. Now next time I will be that much more likely to not feel safe doing it.