32[M4f] #Online/Midwest US Experienced and well spoken Dom searching for his long term sub for a serious dynamic.

A little about me:

I am a 32 year old college graduate working in a professional field. I love rock climbing, hiking and camping, kayaking. I also go to the gym 4-5 times a week. On the other hand I enjoy cooking for others, hosting parties, and going out with friends to maintain a healthy social life. On an unexpected third hand I also enjoy reading, playing video games, binging Netflix, and honestly most other nerdy things. I have an ever present sense of humor (good is arguable) and hate the idea of being serious all of the time. As far as appearances go I am 5’11”, around 180 pounds and have hair that has been described as any variation of “kind of reddish, blondish, brown”, and very dark eyes. I am prior military as well, though I am quite liberal.

As a Dom:

I have over 20 years of experience in BDSM. This includes dynamics in real life and online. I focus on only having relationships based on the trust and respect special to D/s relationships with every sub. I prefer long-term and meaningful relationships to short term fun. True submission requires a level of emotional connection that isn’t possible in the first day.

I am a diverse Dom as my kinks are fairly open ended. My methods are always unique to my submissive, no one should feel like they’ve been slotted into a dynamic that is not special for them. That does not mean I don't have my own distinct set of kinks that will be worked in as well, as long as they are within limits. My control also extends to mental aspects of a sub. I will mold you into a more perfect sub to serve me. I want you to be a sub I can be proud of in both your submission and your own life adventures. I have no interest in interfering with your personal life, unless you expressly ask for it. Our relationship will be private and self contained. And this extends both ways, mutual trust, respect, and caring for one another is non-negotiable. Power exchange is huge for me, so I am looking for more than just light play. Note that there is a difference between a punishment and a funishment, and both will be explored.

My expectations from you:

Firstly, I don’t care about your experience level. Brand new or years of experience are both welcome. I love the act of teaching and training, so what is important is that you’re eager to learn.

I expect you to find happiness in the act of submitting, but beyond that, creating a bond with someone that goes deeper than that. In the end this is the foundation upon we will build everything else. You should trust me to do what is best for you and that I deeply care about you. Good conversation is important to me and we should enjoy spending time together when we are outside of play.

I spend my time on a sub because I think she is worth taking time out of my day to care for her, not because I need a time sink. This leads to the fact that I am doing things with my life, I push myself to become better, to explore the world. I find that I crave variety, to see life from different perspectives, and I love how that colors my view of the world. I expect the same spark in my sub. If you are complacent, or God forbid boring, I’m not sure we would be a good match for one another. You should be funny, interesting, healthy, and committed to making this relationship a priority.

A relationship would begin on a messaging app with us getting to know each other, both in relation to a D/s relationship, but also about our interests to make sure we are a good fit for one another. Once we decide to explore a dynamic we can discuss what other avenues of communication we are comfortable with as the relationship grows. I will require picture verification early on. It can be clothed, as this is only to make sure you are who you claim to be. The select few out there who try to trick others have truly ruined things for the rest of us. After your submission, once we have settled into a mutual trust, I will want pictures of you completing tasks, as well as just normal everyday pictures to share our lives and experiences. You will never be forced to show your face or give up your anonymity if that is not something you are comfortable with, as your comfort in our relationship is my priority.

If you're interested we can talk more about kinks specifically, but my BIG limits for sure are diapers, real self harm, and scat.

If you’ve made it here I assume you have some interest in what I have to offer so just take the chance and message me. I would never be mean to a sub putting herself out there, so there’s really nothing to lose. Just tell me a little about yourself and what about my ad interests you and we can go from there.