What degree of support is normal for me (31F) to receive from boyfriend (33M)?
To preface my story, I’ve (30F) been in a relationship for 3 years with someone (33M) I love and that loves me. There is a difference in background that he comes from a millionaire family whereas I come from a single mother who had to work multiple jobs to raise me.
His family is extremely well connected and they’re not necessarily quiet about their connections. My boyfriend, his parents, and his siblings rave about the people they know and all their wealth. The incredible houses, meals, sporting events, vacations etc. Meanwhile I’ve had to work two full time jobs to stay afloat at times.
There have been multiple instances when I’ve come up with business ideas that I thought perhaps I could move forward or help progress with the help of some of his family or connections. For example, a cleaning business that I advertise online, pamphlets etc. I thought could also be brought to one of their many apartment and condominium developer friends who are close to billionaires.. I thought maybe they could give us a shot with cleaning one small apartment building. It was immediately shot down by my boyfriend.
I’ve recently had decent success with an online store selling house decor. When I brought it up that perhaps his father’s company could give it as gifts to some employees and he made a comment about me using him.
A realtor approached me once to ask for my help getting leads, I would get paid per lead I brought. I brought it up to my boyfriend and he said “my family already knows to many people, they won’t go for a random person” and shot it down.
I know I shouldn’t rely on other people and try to grind it out myself, which is what I end up doing. What degree of support is normal in this situation? I’ve never asked for a dime from him or his family, only opportunities in a very small scale. But sometimes it would be nice if he could think of ways to help me instead of me asking for help and getting shot down.
TLDR; what degree of support is the norm to expect from my boyfriend when it comes to my entrepreneurial endeavours?
Posted Jan 30, 2026, 5:03 AM UTC