Can I press charges? Of any kind?

Hi, I’m gonna try and keep this short and concise for readability. I (24 F )and my (24 M)bf have been paying rent and living at his father’s(71M) house to help with expenses and to keep our own expenses down. Things were relatively normal and okay for the last 3 years.

These past 6 months he’s been psychologically torturing me (and my boyfriend to a slightly lesser extent, maybe not lesser but different). He sleeps on the couch next to our ONE bathroom in the house. He sits there all day for 24/48/72 hours straight sometimes before ever getting up to do anything. He has two large golden retrievers that are both technically young/puppy.

He threatens us verbally and picks fights every time we ask to take the dogs outside to the bathroom, since the one time we took them outside because they needed to go and he screamed at us for hours because he thinks when we do stuff for the animals health and wellbeing, he takes it as an insult like we’re telling him he can’t take care of the dogs… (which is true). On top of it he beats the ever living FUCK out of these animals. The smaller younger dog is a girl and the older one is a boy, he wants to breed them in the house. He is not equipped to do this. He doesn’t have the money to care for puppies or even have a clean space for them to be born. He refuses to neuter the dog (old man bullshit reasons) and he WANTS the other dog to have babies.

When I moved in and started paying rent 4 years ago, the house was dirty and there is an entire room dedicated to GARBAGE. My boyfriend’s dad is a hoarder of literal trash. I at the very least tried to start cleaning what I could, but I wasn’t ALLOWED to touch the trash in that room. Again, his ego getting in the way, he said he would do it. In 4 years it has gotten worse. Our room isn’t spotless but there is zero trash or clutter. I may not make the bed everyday, I may have a clothing item on the floor at times, and I may have schoolwork piled up on my desk but it’s not DIRTY.

There is an impenetrable mice infestation that has been going on since July 2024, I have spent thousands of dollars on traps only to find out his dad feeds the mice. He left a bag of sweet potatoes in the cupboard and they ate so much of it. In that time he bought rat poison that is extremely toxic to the animals he refuses to take care of and leave it around the house. Our entire attic and every surface of the house has been destroyed by the mice. No matter how much I cleaned and tried to kill them off, I can’t get rid of them. I set up 4 traps every night and I kill four mice by the next morning. I’ve been doing this since July 2024, I simply am at a loss with this part. I have lost so many clothes because of the mice nesting in my drawers. I had to start putting my clothes in plastic sealed bins for my own sanity.

To follow up on how he sleeps next to the bathroom, a few times a week for the entire month of October and November he would try to force his way into the bathroom while I’m using it. For reference, the door is basically broken. There is no lock, there is no way to keep the door close if the heat starts running as the door will burst open with the heat starting to blow through the vents. I physically have to hold the door closed if I’m using the bathroom while the heat is on. Every single time he would try to get in there he’s violently jerking and pulling the door open slightly with his whole body weight, while I’m trying to hold it closed with my whole body weight MID SHIT.

ON MY BIRTHDAY (october #) He cornered me in our very very small, narrow, kitchen near the sink and stove. I was making a sandwich on the stovetop, hurriedly, as he had been making me uncomfortable for a very very long time at this point. For reference, because of how uncomfortable he makes me, even though I pay rent and buy groceries, I REFUSE to be alone in the house with my boyfriend’s dad. I simply was making a sandwich. He came up behind me in the VERY tight space, after riling up the dogs, and he breathed very heavily for a few seconds (horny sounding) and he ran his finger down my back just stopping before he touched my butt and it would be sexual assault.

I ran upstairs abandoning my food and immediately cried and tried making sense of it.

For reference, I unfortunately had a really bad childhood and over the course of my life from being 13-18 I was raped by 7 different people, not just once per person, some people did it multiple times. Being touched by someone I didn’t think had the ability to do that or WOULD do that because I-AM-DATING-YOUR-SON!!!!!

Another piece to add: his dad was physically and sexually abusive to my boyfriend’s mom their entire 23 year marriage, noting that a week after she gave birth to my boyfriend, they got in a fight, and he closed fist hit her over the head to the point there was bloodshed while she was nursing HIS ONLY FIRSTBORN SON AND ONLY CHILD….

His mom aborted their other child they would’ve had together, the one they got pregnant with before she got pregnant with my boyfriend. I believe it is because she found out it was a girl and was worried he would molest their daughter.

Yesterday everything blew up when my boyfriend and his dad got in a fight over his abuse of the animals and the incident of him touching me inappropriately came up. His dad denied it happening. We left for good.

THIS IS THE **TLDR** AND THE PART I NEED HELP WITH:

Boyfriend’s dad has been instilling fear in me that he will sexually assault me, trying to also torture his son and have power over us. He’s a serious animal abuser, dirty hoarder, who borderline sexually assaulted me and feeds a mice infestation.

I seriously need help: Can I call 2-1-1 to get him on a mandatory psych hold? Can I call animal control and get the dogs taken away from him? Can I get him put in jail for the abuse (I know this one is a long shot since it’s apparently my word against his even though I see a therapist and she wants to put me in a mental hospital as I am having a nervous break about this)???? What can I even do???

Added comment: Also am I being slightly selfish? My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years and I’ve known him for 11 years. He said to his dad that he loves and forgives him but won’t be going back. Am I selfish for being upset that someone two days later can say that shit knowing he wanted to hurt your girlfriend so badly that she wants to end her own life? I genuinely feel this way. I’ve never been so depressed and torn in my life because at least I could get away from the other people forever.