Bottoms: how do you find & flirt with tops? I lack game so bad and i need advice

Gay friends always want to fuck me so I don’t have gay friends. I’ve legit lost some of closest friends and I can’t deal with it anymore it’s not fair for me so I just stopped trying to make gay friends.

I’m into monogamy and everybody just has casual sex with everybody and I’m always always ostracized for not being as open sexually as others.

So like how do you actually meet tops in public on a regular basis? Like not in a gay club.

Do you just approach random guys you’re attracted to even when 99% of the time they will be straight? I feel like when I try to do that guys always give me weird looks lol like they know I’m attracted to them and it makes them uncomfortable even though I’m good looking guy too

And then there are the psychos that just feed off attention from anybody and I definitely don’t want anything to do with those types.

Rock climbing group is like the main suggestion. I guess I gotta check those out. I’m in NYC, there’s gotta be better places I can explore. Do I have to try every sport team and gastro pub in the city and just bend over in front of everybody until somebody asks for my number?

In all seriousness, Bottoms: how did you find your top of you’re a bit more on the prude / private side like me?

What is your approach in public?

Tell me your secrets so I don’t die alone. Thank you and fuck fascism.