AITAH - I’ve done some unethical shit since having a family

Wondering if IATAH for all the shit I’ve done since becoming a mom. Pretty deep shit and I probably am an asshole. First thing I did - when I was pregnant like 8 1/2 months pregnant) I accepted around 2k from a client who my bestfriend hated (the girl had slept with my bestfriends cheating boyfriend when they were 17) but she wanted to pay me 2k for my new service I was offering. That girl was actually my first ever client & that money helped me extremely during my maternity leave. Me and my boyfriend didn’t have much money at the time and I was an entrepreneur so I didn’t have paid maternity leave. That money actually saved us in a sense. Anyways my bestfriend of 20 years doesn’t talk to me anymore cause of it. Next thing I did was get a job somewhere. That job was terrible. They invited me to a 5-7 and I made the effort to go in a snowstorm to get to know my new co-workers. We ended up taking pictures of the food for 2h and I was playing hand model the entire time. (It was a marketing agency) I went home and cried to my husband (starving cause I left after 2h cause I was tired of posing with food) about how I could’ve spent the night with my son and him since I barely see them now that I work 9-6 at an office every single day, and they had me working (for free) my boss would make me clock out if I wanted to go take some fresh air outside for 5 min. We were literally paid by the minute there. Anyway I ended up quitting and got a job at one of their biggest clients companies. My old boss called me today saying he can’t believe I screwed him over like that. Because now that I work there the company is choosing to do their marketing internally and may fire my old boss’s company. But at that job, they let me work from home. Pay me yearly, are super flexible on the hours. And I’m basically living the dream of a work-life balance which is perfect for my toddler and my husband, and for me. So Reddit, am I the asshole for screwing people over for this? My main priority is my family and to be honest, I do maybe step on peoples toes and act unethical. But I’m surviving out here. AITAH?

Posted Jan 30, 2026, 5:07 AM UTC

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