My boyfriend’s ex-situationship won’t leave him alone

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My boyfriend’s ex-situationship won’t leave him alone.

I really need advice because this situation is exhausting and I don’t know how to feel anymore. Before me, my boyfriend had a situationship with a girl. They were close, but she kind of cheated on him, so he blocked her and cut her off. They talked for about 2–3 months. My boyfriend says it wasn’t THAT romantic, just friends.

Me and my boyfriend started talking in July 2025. In August 2025, she started messaging him again. Since then, it’s been nonstop.

He blocks her.

She makes new accounts.

He blocks those.

She gets her friends to message him.

He blocks them too.

She keeps asking him to talk to her.

Today, she messaged one of his friends saying she found his mom’s account and if he doesn’t talk to her, she’ll message his mom. He told his friend to tell her to go ahead because he doesn’t care, and then he blocked her on his mom’s account too.

At one point, she even put his Instagram @ in her bio saying “my @___ baby” while me and him were already talking.

We started officially dating in late 2025.

she has evem threatened to k word herself if he doesn’t talk to her.

My boyfriend still didn’t give in. He blocked her again. Once, he asked her to stop and blocked her. He’s been doing everything right. He doesn’t entertain her, But I’m exhausted. :(

I hate that this person is still in our lives in any way. I hate that she’s this obsessed. I hate that she keeps escalating. And I hate that now there’s emotional manipulation involved. It makes me anxious and uncomfortable even though I know my boyfriend isn’t doing anything wrong.

So I’m asking:

• Is it normal that this still bothers me even though he’s handling it well?

• What should we do if she keeps threatening self-harm?

• How do I stop letting this affect me so much?

i just feel drained by this whole situation.

Any advice is appreciated :( Thank you