Is it abusive if he puts his phone not even two inches from my face

Some context, we ticked each other off before this, I had made dinner for him and my daughter. I left the room and told them it needed to cool, she’s a toddler so she can’t serve herself. I hang out in our room to cool down, he follows shortly to get on his Xbox with food in tow. I ask if he served my kid. The response: “shut the fuck up”, I said “excuse me?!” He repeated himself with more profanities. I unplugged the router (toxic, ik), he then starts yelling at me and calling me abusive, putting his phone on my face which would promptly get swatted or attempted to snatch it away so it won’t be in my face. He kept doing that, whilst also trying to manipulate me into silence bc I’m the one being a bad example. Started trying to spin the narrative on camera that he never instigated or provoked and that every time I’d try to get the camera out of my face, I was “hitting” him. This kept going, eventually I managed to snatch his phone away, he ripped both that and my phone out of my hands, leaves, shuts my phone off and takes off with it. Told me he hid it in the living room (it was still on him) yada yada, he tries to record and spin it like I’m some abusive witch on camera, which of course I have enough to completely diminish that. He told me he’d see me in court then, I leave the room to search for my phone so I can call my mom or the cops or whoever could talk me down from leaving and divorcing, pack my things, and he comes out to record that I had taken the debit card and keys(I don’t work and we’re married so it’s my money too, and we have one car). Leaves again to do whatever, I just go sit and mope in the bathroom bc I couldn’t find my phone and I didn’t want to go get harassed and provoked again. He brings it to me, apologized and said “I know I don’t like getting my phone taken, so you definitely don’t either” “we’re setting a bad example for baby” I tell him that he can at least respond respectfully when it comes to my baby, I don’t care how angry he is, it’s not hard to say yes or no about having fed my kid. I told him if he put his phone in my face again id shatter it. I’m very obviously a sobby crying mess, he goes “I gate seeing you like this, how can I fix it? What can I do?” I said that time will fix it. Well he continues to try to be nice, until maybe fifteen minutes later when someone (his friends or family) calls to ask what was going on (I’m assuming they received a video of me slapping the phone away or something, “she was just being super toxic”. Blablabla. So he wanted to take accountability, until he didn’t. So that’s awesome.