Your greatest asset: Leaning into his perception of you.

I'm about 3 weeks into not challenging his internal narrative, entertaining his grievances & randomly being in awe of his "resilience" etc...

We haven't fought with since this "experiment" started. He was slightly testy today re some errand I had been tasked with & "Oh dear, are we slipping back into old habits?" (By this he means my general uselessness...a perception I'd leveraged on purpose as to help mask my actual goal*)

I briefly fantasized about flinging toast at his forehead, but slapped on my positive-toxicity face instead: “UH-UH… remember Positive 2026!!!” 😃🤗😉 (finger wagging included) & quickly did the quick task I'd "neglected"

Then, I quickly brought up someone he finds annoying, let him rant for several minutes while I did my usual "oh wow", "that is insane" and "you are so patient"

*While he was distracted by his righteousness, I pulled out my laptop & sent an email. It was something I need to be legally binding & cc’d him. I wrote to my bank stating that my husband had gifted me a particular minor asset.

I framed it as: “Gosh. Before I forget yet another task & since you’re here, let me get this out of the way"

Key point: it’s something I could afford to lose. If questioned, I planned to say I’d been “advised” to include it for × reason. That and “gift” framing also works for another purpose that is beneficial for him, so there would be no reason for him to challenge it.

...Unless he knew I was planning on leaving him.

Which he doesn't.

Never realized what an asset it is that my husband thinks he has me "all figured out". Best thing that ever happened to me.

Still, I won’t pull anything like this for at least two weeks. Next week is strictly functional/supportive. Easy enough, given he’ll be in another city for two days.

Conclusion: Minor asset attained.

Sending love ❤️

(Note: Not endorsing my tactics at all. Simply sharing what's helping me)