Lack of protection for me

Hey, me 30 and husband 31 are currently not on the same page what so ever. I'm really struggling with the lack of protection he has over me, I know it's not his fault and it's just his personality but I'm just so exhausted.

So here's the issue, my mother was over and I know she's my mum but I swear she just resents me. That's a whole different story.

So we recently just had a baby, and my mum for the whole time just goes on about my husband is so great with the baby, repeatably says dadada but never mama; you know like when you teaching a baby to speak. Saying to my baby your going to be such a daddy's girl and in the next breath I don't know why your mum complains about you. She's honestly like I'm not her daughter and my husband's her son and I'm in the inlaw.

Lots of small thing things like this but it honestly just cuts deep into me. My husband knows how much this hurts me, I spend days after feeling to shitty about myself. I just want him to stand up for me and say you do know your daughter is a good mum also. I love this man with all my heart, his is honestly the love of my life, but I just wish he would stand up to me. My mother is just an example, there is more than this.