Doms vs Dominate men

Let me preface with im not super experienced in the scene. I have had 1 Dom and he had alot of ups and downs however, he understood what being a Dom meant.

Fast forward, I join fetlife to be on the hunt for a Dom in my area. The amount of people that use that site for a random hookup and are just kinky, astounds me.

There is no dynamic, they get upset that I am asking to vet them, they want to have the Dom title without doing any of the understand as to how the dynamic works.

How are you going to say "I don't think subspace is real" ????

It's people like that, that I would never let near me, I believe they are dangerous.

End rant.