Does someone have experience with using Joyce or Fetlife as datingapp? Which of them two is better?

Don't know if I can ask that here but let's try.

So I tried Joyce for a few months now and it works well, but there is a little problem. I'm 23 years old and most people there are more like around 30-40 or older. Thus most of the women there don't want to date men younger than themself. I mean it works, I already got some dates there and more but I wish it was more because most of the time there just isn't that much selection in my age.

Then I heard from Fetlife. It is supposedly similar to Joyce I heard but I don't want to download it and pay for a subscription just to be disappointed when it should turn out way worse than Joyce.

So my question is:

1. Did anyone here use Joyce and Fetlife?

2. Are they really so similar or are they completely different?

3. Which of these two is easier to find a date or more on?

4. Which of these two apps would you recommend more especially with my case in mind that I'm relatively young and want to be able to find more people in my age?

You can also recommend better apps when you have one that is better in your opinion but please don't recommend tinder, or bumble, lovoo, boo, hinge or other apps similar to them because I tried them and for me they turned out as the biggest scam in the world and full of bots or catfishs or inactive accounts...