The job dynamics shifted and it’s HAR!

Hey nannies. I am looking for support and perspective from people who understand how quickly this job can change.

I genuinely love my nanny family. They are good people and involved parents. The challenge is that the level of support they need now is more than what was originally stated when I accepted the job.

The biggest shift has been with the oldest. There are developmental and behavioral things going on that are now being taken seriously and he is transitioning to a different school to help with support and evaluation. A week or two ago it clicked for me that what I was seeing was not about a new caregiver coming in or a rough adjustment period. This has been a common thread, not a one off situation, and that realization changed how I see the role.

Alongside that is the sweetest, chillest 9 month old. She is wonderful, but she is also very much in the cross fires of big sibling behavior and high energy moments. I want to make sure I am not just meeting her basic needs, but actually have the time, regulation, and energy to be present with her too. Right now that feels stretched.

I am meeting with the parents next week to go over the new school information, what this means in terms of day to day support, expectations, and a pay increase due to the changing dynamics of the role. I feel confident in what needs to be discussed, but emotionally this is still heavy.

If you have navigated a situation where a child’s needs evolved after you were already in the role, especially with a baby in the mix, I would really appreciate hearing how you handled it. Advice, encouragement, or just solidarity is welcome.

Thank you for holding space.