Did you thought you were ENFP/ESFP? How did you knew you weren't those types but ESFJ?

I'm having trouble to finally stay with one answer. I thought I was ESFJ but now I'm doubting because I also like to be spontaneous and live in the moments and don't care about what other people say, but at the same time I also feel like I rasonate a lot with ESFJ (Like Dina from tlou who may seem like an ESFP but is an ESFJ 7w6 or the same with Gloria Pritchett)